Randy C. Bonds
Whether you were on Twitter or not, you definitely got a whiff of the heated debate going on between Chris Brown, and former B2K member, RazB. The confrontation started when RazB tweeted, “Im just sittin here Thinking how can…@ebenet [Eric Benet] & @ChrisBrown disrespect women as Intelligent as @HalleBerry11 @Rihanna.” Brown immediately fired back with a host of low blows about RazB’s molestation incident, titling him as a homo-thug, as RazB countered his insults with allegations that Brown was on the down-low. Immediately following the incident, TMZ posted a story about it on their website, accusing Brown of attacking the former B2K singer, and countless tweets claiming that he learned nothing from Anger Management.
This is a perfect example of celebrities carelessly going at it publicly with no concern whatsoever of the potential outcome. This isn’t the first time something like this has happened, and surely won’t be the last.
In my opinion, it’s really an unfortunate situation. Both guys were in the wrong at some point, and I’ll explain why. First off, the domestic violence case that RazB was speaking of is well over a year old. Both stars have moved on with their lives, and are happily excelling in their careers. So why bring up old news, and kick a dead horse? It had nothing to do with him anyway, so what was his purpose of bringing it up? He says that he was trying to make a stand, which would have been fine if this was February of last year when the incident happened. However, considering that it’s a part of the past, the point has already been made, and his commentary was unnecessary. So he definitely started the fire. All Chris did was add fuel to it before putting it out.
Chris was in the wrong for even feeding into it. He’s Chris Brown, and has a very successful music career, has been forgiven by the world for his past mistake, and is definitely a star all over again. He has taken 5 steps forward since the domestic violence incident, but allowed this to pull him 3 steps back. It wasn’t worth it at all. What people have to realize is that as a star, you’re always going to be under attack from fans, haters, media, or other stars. However, you can’t fight every battle. Let people talk! While they’re talking, you’re walking in success, so what else can they say?
As a celebrity, you have to always be prepared to be attacked. What’s important is how you react. Just a few days ago, Chilli was insulted and disrespected by an 18yr old twitterer, and she simply replied, “U can unfollow me if you’d like.” She didn’t go back off on her, and cuss her out. She took the mature route and ignored her. If you add fuel to the fire, it’s just going to grow. But if you smitten the fire with water, you put it out.
When you are a big celebrity, people build you up to knock you down. It’s like crabs in a barrel. As soon as you get to the top, everyone is trying to pull you down. I don’t believe everyone should be attacking Chris, as if he’s all to blame. They are both at fault. He did what was natural, which is what your average person would do if publicly humiliated, he shot back. That doesn’t mean that his anger management was useless. However, what would have made him stand out as the bigger person would have been for him to not feed into RazB’s comment in the first place.
On a positive note, RazB did issue an apology, stating, “Standing up for yourself does not mean yelling or victimizing others and I sincerely apologize for that. I was told that ‘you can’t hear my message if I’m screaming.” I think that was mature of both he and Chris to apologize for their juvenile behavior. I just think it’s another indication that although they are superstars, and they’re always under the spotlight, they are real humans with real feelings, and they too have soft spots and buttons that results in explosions if pressed the wrong way. The maturity that both of them displayed is no different than what many people display daily on social networking sites. However, because their names are bigger, it ends up on TMZ in a matter of minutes, and USA Today, etc. At the end of the day, the moral of the story is to stay focused on your craft, and ignore the other crap. It just ain’t worth it!